I have gotten a lot of questions lately (on my Facebook ironically, where few of you can share in the conversation) asking me why I never talk about being a lesbian on my blog. I guess it is time to bite the bullet and address the “Lesbian Issue.” Yes, I am a lesbian. I have a beautiful wife who makes my whole world go round. I am not trying to make any particular secret of this—in fact if you follow my twitter @beccatheblogger, it is basically impossible not to know that I am a lesbian. I am not ashamed of this fact about myself; in many ways I wish I did more to speak out about the issues facing the gay community, BUT THIS IS NOT A BLOG ABOUT BEING A LESBAIN. This is a blog written by a lesbian. My experiences as a lesbian will sometimes come up in our online heart-to-hearts, but only as an experience that applies to the non-lesbian discussion we are having. I don’t walk around in lesbian shoes, I don’t eat lesbian lunch, and I don’t want a lesbian career—I want a rewarding career. If that happens to overlap with my lesbian life, awesome, but I do not define my character by my sexual orientation. It is a fact about me, like: I am white, I am short, and I come from Oklahoma. There is no sense hiding it, even if I wanted to (for the record I have no desire to hide it), but being a lesbian is not the only thing—or even the critical thing—going on in my life. If you want to learn all about my life as a lesbian, pick up the October issue of Curve magazine. They are doing a story all about me and my wife, and our struggles as lesbians. If you have no interest in the magazine, write me an email and I will talk to you for hours all about the subject. But please don’t let the fact that I am a lesbian eclipse the real purpose of this blog. It drives me crazy that—the second people find out about my sexuality—the lesbian issue becomes the only thing that matters about me. I AM A REAL PERSON, and regardless of whom I love, my life still probably looks 98% like yours. I sleep just like you, I eat just like you, and I share many of the same fears and insecurities as you. Sometimes I feel like I am an unwitting circus lady, relegated to being a sideshow fascination to every new person I meet. Be curious! Ask me questions—I don’t mind! In exchange for my honesty though, please try to see that I am a real person behind the one major fascinating fact about my lifestyle. Ok, end rant. Thanks for hearing me out.
Its a Lesbian Thing
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